Goal No: 4 FIRE YOUR BELLY MEANINGLet’s look at what is, and how to fire your belly. Follow your passion, discover your talent and light your fire! It is that simple. We all have a hidden talent and the way to discover it is by embracing our passion.

Let’s recap on Goals 1-3: What we have explored and discovered so far.

It’s okay to challenge social norms and become an independent free thinker, how our comfort zones deceive and limit us from exploring, trying new things and how our cosy couches keep us from action.


How do we do that you might ask? Our passions are things we love to do like playing a sport, writing, the arts, helping others, coaching, welding, gardening, cooking whatever ignites us. Things we can’t get enough of. We want to know more, explore, learn about it. When we are engaged in our passion time becomes irrelevant. We are so absorbed in doing what we love hours drift by and we don’t even notice.

This state of being, the zone, automatically lights our fire! It is the fire that keeps us absorbed, curious and feeling alive, excited, rewarded at each little discovery, suddenly we try new methods, add something we never thought of before etc. We are deeply engrossed.


Once we explore and find our passion/s we head off to do more of them. During in this process we will discover THE ONE that we love the most, hunger for, thirst for and our talent is out from hiding. All we have to do then is follow it.

Surprisingly, when we allow ourselves to go “all in” on the journey of following our new-found talent we shift our mind to a free space, being in the zone. Nothing else enters our mind and it not uncommon for me to forget to eat!

In the zone, the fire in our belly will contribute to whatever we are absorbed in by way of auto suggestions. Things like “would it be better this way, try this, add this, no that’s not going to work, here’s something to try”. You get my drift. I experience this all the time now and it is a brilliant, relaxed, cool and calm place to be. Continue reading “TOP 10 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS FIRE YOUR BELLY MEANING”

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Goal No 2 & 3: Escape rat race and take action. Let’s look at how we are stuck in the rat race and ways to get out. Again, our brain washed/conditioned sub conscious teaches us to live this way and many of us simply accept it. It is not your fault.


I have covered, in depth, how our sub conscious pretty well controls our lives in my previous post titled Altered States of Consciousness Examples. If you haven’t already read this article, I suggest you do, and it will help you understand and apply what follows. For those who are already aware of our conditioned sub conscious let’s explore and take action shall we?


Let’s picture in our minds the image of a giant wheel in a cage where millions of rats run forward, the wheel constantly turns in a never ending circle and they get nowhere. This is the bulk of humanity going around in a circle. Do we see ourselves there?

ESCAPE RAT RACEWhere are we when we participate in the ludicrous behaviour? In our comfort zone. So cosy doing what everyone else is doing, following the only plan in our sub conscious that has been placed there from the limited thinking of our parents, peers and teachers.

We have inadvertently absorbed these habits and it is not our fault. How do we get out of this never ending circle? Answer: challenge our comfort zones.


Our comfort zones are full of unhealthy lies, deceptions and automatic decisions. One poignant one that comes to my mind is, our parents voted labor, liberal etc resulting in us voting the same. We don’t question whether we actually agree with the party lines, we simply do what our parents did and it is so warm and cosy. How’s this one: Mum and Dad follow the footy and support ………. and without questioning, who do we support? Remember there are a few independent free thinkers out that choose for themselves.

Our automatic behaviours are so ingrained almost across the board of life. We might ask ourselves what can I do to habitually make my own choices. Retrain our sub conscious. How do we do that? In this modern world there are self-help programs everywhere to help us create our own plan, our own unique blueprint and discover what we want to choose in life, instead of accepting what is installed in our comfort zones.

Remember our brains are sophisticated computers and we can install whatever program we choose.



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Goal No: 1 Examples of Social Norms. We are off to explore our social norms and discover how damaging they are and how they bring about limited thinking. Surprised? So was I!  Let’s personally develop ourselves to make our goals easier.


Believe it or not the social norm is a set of rules that dictates to us and most of us unconsciously choose to live by. Have you ever questioned the norm? Fortunately, the norm dictates some healthy ideas and unfortunately, some limiting unhealthy ideas about how we should run our lives. Most of us accept the social norms as gospel and rarely do they get challenged.


Within the social norms I have discovered how it limits our beliefs and damages our way of thinking. Let’s look at a fewSOCIAL NORMS examples of how the social norm has us take unhealthy action and make unwise decisions.

The norm dictates what is fashionable, i.e. what we will wear, what we will drink, what and how we should eat, what restaurants are the best in town, what is newsworthy (most of it being negative), what pills we will take, where our children will go to school etc. etc.

One classic norm rule most of us follow is buying a home. This home “must have” a mortgage, 4 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, the latest big screen TV, at least 2 garages, swimming pool, shed, and be equipped with all the latest fashion kitchens, tiles, windows, security system, and all the modern bells and whistles. You get my drift. This is commonly referred to as INSTANT GRATIFICATION and is explained in a recent post of mine which also addresses GOVERNMENT HANDOUTS.

Then the next rule is we must get a job and work for a considerable number of years of our lives to pay off the “acceptable” debt. Most of the time this means our wives must also work and the children then go to day care and this is OK, this is normal. Is it I ask? I don’t believe so.SMALL AND AFFORDABLE

We all have the capability to choose to buy, with a small mortgage, a small place without all the bells and whistles, live with the basic necessities (minimum of furniture, washing machine, fridge, kettle, a small TV) and make it our business to save for floor coverings, blinds and the bells and whistles with cash from our savings. End result, manageable mortgage that can be dispensed with more rapidly. Perhaps with a manageable mortgage, one of the parents can be a “stay at home” and witness the children growing up. Is this not common sense?

The norm teaches the populace it is just fine to be in debt up to our eyeballs and ALSO, FOR THE GOVERNMENT to be in deficit and continue to spend. Think about it.

The norm, in fact brain washes us and conditions us to “follow like sheep”. We don’t action our independent free thinking capabilities to arrive at our own informed decisions.



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No: 1 Personal Development Plan with an explanation of how to understand the mental processes required to change your life. Learn how to apply it and your path will be easier and probably quicker. Let’s go and explore shall we?

My previous article, called Altered States Of Consciousness Examples, is my first take on explaining the mental processes required to make change. I will give my updated take in this article to help further clarify this process. Sit back with a cup of coffee, relax, bring an open mind however do put your thinking cap on.




The two brain compartments that we are dealing with is the sub conscious mindset and the conscious mindset.


Our sub conscious takes care of functions like beating our hearts, our breathing and thousands more. These are stored in our sub conscious and happen for us on AUTO PILOT.

Added to our sub conscious is all the childhood learning that we absorbed from our peers, parent, teachers, what is HOW OUR BRAIN WORKSnormal, right and wrong, social rules etc consequently we are conditioned, perhaps brainwashed to behave in certain ways and this all runs on AUTO PILOT. Another way of describing this stored information is our comfort zones.

Due to our conditioning/brain washing our inner child is wounded. It wants to be recognised, nurtured and listened to. When this doesn’t happen it gets offended by adult rules and takes refuge in addiction, obesity, being false and wearing masks, being a rebel, a hoarder, a bully, a super achiever, intimacy problems, commitment problems, obsessiveness, fear of authority figures, liars, criminals and the list is endless.

In adulthood, the ripples or echoes of those experiences, both positive and negative, can have a tremendous influence on us. It could be a career choice that falls into the family dynamic (follow in Dad’s footsteps) or having a problem with drink, drugs, anger or adopting a great sense of humour, help others, cook the best scones etc. You get my drift. These behaviours are learned and run on AUTO PILOT.

We need to look at ourselves honestly and acknowledge damaging issues that may have festered since childhood, accept them without blame and recognise our child is in desperate need of healing.


Our conscious mindset as babies are full of wonder, playfulness and love learning, exploring and everything is an adventure. This is all displayed in our baby smiles when we are happy, learning to crawl and then walk, touching everything, crying when we are not happy, learning to speak etc. At this point in our lives we are honest and our integrity is on an all time high.

In adulthood, after absorbing all the conditioning our tainted conscious mindset takes care of all our daily decisions like all the boring grind stuff (cook a meal, go to work, take a shower etc.) as well as positive and rewarding decisions like learning, playing a sport, social dinners etc. and guides us with incorrect/correct actions stored in our sub conscious. THIS IS IMPORTANT: OUR SUB CONSCIOUS CAN ONLY GUIDE US WITH WHAT IS STORED, BE IT GOOD OR BAD.


By simply becoming aware of our unhealthy behaviours, we can take conscious action to repair the damage, nurture our child and change our behaviours and therefore our levels of happiness.

In fact, what we are doing is creating OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS in our sub conscious mindset.


This is where we reconnect with our baby blueprint. The one that is full of wonder, playfulness, honesty, integrity, learning,NEVER GIVE UP not giving up (e.g. learning to walk, fall down, get up, try again, no such thing as failure). The best way to live our lives is mirrored in the baby blueprint. I believe this map is, in fact, referred to as our best self, our higher conscious and higher self. What do you think?

The unhealthy behaviours we learned were constantly re-enforced by repetition. Consequently, our own unique positive instructions need to be repetitive to become embedded in our sub conscious.

My unique instructions reflect my dream life in all it’s aspects. Whatever I dream up, am passionate about and desire is listed in my unique instructions. What will we put in our unique instructions? Our blueprints don’t want to sit on the couch, smoke, drink too much, be unfit, angry, tell untruths etc. Why? Because they hurt us, are unhealthy, cause remorse etc. We can change anything by applying our own unique instructions repeatedly.

Now I’m all for speeding up my unique plan, and since repetition is important, I employ Hypnosis downloads which are packed with repetition. I get the added bonus of deep relaxation for at least 10 minutes a day. I was not a fan of hypnosis until I decided to try it and then make an informed decision. I am so glad I was adventurous enough to try it and now I’m a fan. Why? Because it undoubtedly works, speeds up the process a bit like cheating really. In this case my unique plan says it’s okay to make this process easier, it’s healthy!!!

I always worked for someone else and consequently I was constrained and had to follow someone’s rules. I have changed this and am now working for myself, to my own rules and have my own online business. All the doubts, fears etc stored in my sub conscious are being replaced with I can, I am, learn the new, I am not giving up and the wonder of owning my own business. I am following my own unique plan. Do you see how this works?


PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLANApply our own unique instructions. Our inner child will embrace anything that mirrors the best blueprint. Once on the right path our child contributes because they want to play, learn, laugh, feel joyful for our successes and help us along the way. I find it extraordinary how adventuresome, curious, courageous, brave and enthusiastic my child is.

In this day and age I believe there are many people who have discovered this “unique plan to change” and offer many self help programs to reconnect with our child’s blueprint. Most of them include the word “manifest”. I personally dislike the word manifest, because for me, it conjures up “what a load of crap”. However, I got out of my comfort zone and I decided I was curious enough to at least check a few of them out so I could make an honest informed decision.

What I discovered was they actually address these mental processes in exactly the same way as I have uncovered them. They are authentic and offer easier ways to apply our unique instructions and bring desired results more rapidly. The only thing I had to come to terms with was the word manifest. I have successfully replaced it with create. The techniques are somewhat unusual, and a bit of a stretch for those of us stuck in our comfort zones and those who won’t break out of the so called “norm”. There are a lot of people out there, using these techniques and parading their best lives and I want to be one of them, whatever it takes. How about you?

Once again, I am grateful I had the courage, the curiosity and was brave enough to be an independent free thinking person and form my own opinion. So what if the techniques are unusual and unfamiliar, if they work for me I happily embrace them. Will we access material and programs that can facilitate positive change in our lives? This is entirely your decision.

Why make our way with the laborious and costly exercise of consulting a Psych when change is at our fingertips. Why cheat ourselves by accepting the norm and bedding down in our comfort zones. I found it is exhilarating being an independent free thinker.


I don’t need to explain this step. We all know what we have to do! Stay focused and bring our lives to the best lives we could ever dream of. By applying all I have learned, staying focused and pursuing my dream life, like a bull dog, I live each day with excitement, enthusiasm, aliveness, gratefulness, facing challenges head on and overcoming them. The result, I am evolving into a liberated woman, an independent free thinker and LOVING IT! Where have I been all my life, buried under the brainwashing, the “norm” and bedded down in my comfort zone.


Think on this: Curiosity drove inventors, renown artists, musicians, digital and medical masters etc to be independent free thinker. They thought outside the box, outside the “norm” and followed their passion and curiosities. Would you agree? We have genius brilliant minds (it’s in the baby blueprint), all we need to do is to free our minds from convention and conditioning and become curiosity gurus.

I hope my article has been compelling and some us have the courage to grab it with both hands and give it a try.

It has been my pleasure to share my discoveries with you. My journey brings me closer and closer to the happiness that was eluding me. I can smell it, sense it and I have got my fingertips on it now. There’s no stopping me! Join me. I invite you all to join the conversation, share your gems of wisdom and experience and help us grow together. Thank you.

Cheers now, Jill

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From my understanding our brain has compartments that serve us in different ways. We are going to discuss one particular example of states of consciousness that I have experienced. For others like trance, please read my previous blog called ALTERED STATE OF MIND DEFINITION.


The two compartments that we are going to discuss is the conscious mindset and the sub conscious mindset. If we had to ALTERED STATES CONSCIOUSNESS EXAMPLESuse our conscious mindset to beat our hearts, breath our lungs, action our flight/fight response etc our brains would be forever busy keeping us alive. All of these functions and millions more are stored in our sub conscious and happen by auto pilot.

This leaves our conscious mind free for the everyday functions: to learn, cook, work, read, garden, socialise, play, think to form an opinion etc. You get my drift.


It is apparent that the sub conscious mind “takes care of all the functions that are repetitive”. Consequently, everything we learn as a child from our parents, teachers, peers is stored in the sub conscious and runs on auto pilot. The adults in our lives repetitively teach us “we are not good enough, what is normal and what’s not, what’s right and what’s wrong, our life values etc”. Some of these lessons are good and some are limited by the adult’s beliefs. Nevertheless, our sub conscious runs on auto pilot and we constantly behave accordingly. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.


ALTERED STATES CONSCIOUSNESS EXAMPLESOur conscious mindset takes care of all our daily decisions like “I’m going to have a shower” and all that daily boring grind stuff and the good stuff like I’m off to dancing”. Now what happens if we throw a spanner in the works and consciously think “I’m going to get out of my boring job and build myself an online business”. Our sub conscious immediately comes back with “you’re not good enough, that’s not normal”.

What if we consciously think “I feel inside, that I have a purpose in life”. Our good old sub conscious comes back with “that’s rubbish, that’s not normal.”. Consciously we ask “Why do I wonder about this, why do I have this longing inside?”.. Good old subby says “forget about it, it’s not normal, we are doing what is right” etc and it can only guide from the store it has, that was born out of repetition.

What happens next is we dismiss the thought and return to our “norm” and retreat into our so called comfort zones. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Reminds me of a quote: “Definition of insanity is: We keep doing the same things over and over and expect different results”.


When we know and become aware of how our sub conscious takes charge of our lives, we become no longer prepared to accept the limitations that we have been fed for most of our lives.

Now we know the sub conscious does repetitive actions, learns from repetitive instructions and faithfully reproduces these instructions time and time again. With awareness of how this works we can begin to create our own unique instructions by repeatedly acting in a certain way. By consistently and persistently pursuing a goal our sub conscious starts to take the new instructions on board and will store the new knowledge.

We persist with a new idea, keep being consistent and never give up until we achieve the goal and then we celebrate, feel good about ourselves, are proud of ourselves and all of these great experiences are now stored in our sub conscious. The next goal we set for ourselves, our subs throw up “keep going, never give up, you can do this, try this” and whatever worked last time.

This is an example of how we have altered our sub conscious mindset. We can create the life we want for ourselves. How you might ask, by taking repetitive courageous and brave action, stepping outside of our comfort zones, having the balls and audacity to think outside of the old training, that we have inadvertently absorbed, and teaching our sub conscious new tricks.

Let’s look at a person who was born with a silver spoon in their mouth. Their childhood sub conscious learned from the ALTERED STATES CONSCIOUSNESS EXAMPLESwealthy adults around them, that “this is normal, this is how you do it, I’m proud of you son etc.”. and they take the right action automatically. Are we beginning to realise how powerful our sub conscious is?

How badly do we wish we were born into this way of thinking? How badly do we want a better life? Well opportunity knocks for the brave. Have an open mind and take a chance. The  Manfesting Movie Program is changing my life. Guess what, I intensely dislike the word “manifest” and it conjured up for me “what a load of crap”. I prefer “create” which is what I’m doing. Creating a better life. Am I rich yet? No, however, in only three months I have in place an online business of my own which is the framework to bring in the money. Has it been easy, no. I am working my butt off, being challenged every day with technology I no nothing about BUT loving it and feeling alive and well.


Our sub conscious doesn’t have the ability to judge. It simply spews forth whatever is stored there, whether it is good or bad. Consequently if all that is stored there is negative, it will continue to keep spewing forth the negative and we will continue to experience life in a negative way. If debt is stored there as “normal” it will keep supporting debt and continue to teach us how to stay in debt.ALTERED STATES CONSCIOUSNESS EXAMPLES

We have the power to feed our sub conscious mindset with our CHOSEN UNIQUE SET OF INSTRUCTIONS that will give us what we want by repetitively taking healthy action toward whatever we want.

To start this process is not easy, it is probably the biggest challenge we will have in our lives. It is not a quick fix and takes dedication, massive determination and motivation. IF I CAN DO IT SO CAN YOU.

There are many programs that will help us facilitate our “new instructions” and they all require us to breakaway from the “norm”, get out of our comfort zones and accept the new. They may sound a bit wacky and indeed they are, UNTIL THEY WORK! How can we make a considered honest decision about something we haven’t tried.

This brings me to the cheats way of dealing with repetitively feeding in our unique set of instructions. HYPNOSIS downloads are full of repetition and that is why they work. I know they work because I use them.


Take a chance on ourselves by doing something different. I’m not going to sell you on anything, however, by sharing my experiences I am opening doors. It is up to you to walk through.

It’s been great sharing with you and I invite you to join the conversation and share your experiences so we can grow together. Until next time,

Cheers Jill


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In today’s modern world most of us are aware of trance, hypnosis and even channeling. In my opinion, it is sometimes a stretch to get our head around some of these concepts. Having said that, in this later stage of my life, I have found my explorer/adventurer, got out of my comfort zone, and now check out all of these new somewhat challenging concepts.ALTERED STATE OF MIND DEFINITION

The results have been advantageous and exhilarating. So shall we go and explore?


I continue to experience light trance, (which is, by the way, a pleasant state) and tends to bring up bucket loads of fears, doubts and other things that impede me having a life of happiness. Often action thoughts to fix the problem come at the end of the relaxation session. Amazing but true.

Another trance like state is where our bodies move us. Think of a time when we were “in the zone” playing a sport, dancing, anything active and our bodies automatically did what was needed to mark the ball, hit that backhand, be swept up gracefully and land perfectly in a dance. And somehow we knew, with confidence, it was going to happen. I love it when my body moves me, the proof is I can’t make my body move like that no matter how hard I try.

One night at lawn bowls I bowled every bowl like a champion. It stunned me to the point where I thought “who is bowling these bowls?”. It sure didn’t feel like me. The next time I went bowling I tried to bowl like that and I couldn’t. Has this ever happened to you?


ALTERED STATE OF MIND DEFINITIONSimply allowing ourselves to deeply relax, by concentrating on our breath, will take us into a light trance. For me it’s like day dreaming. Mastering meditating could even take us deeper. Truly, it’s not rocket science. In our fast, spinning out of control lifestyles we don’t make time for this simple 10-20 minute pleasure.

Deeply relaxing into a suspended mind space not only allows us to deal with our “baggage”, it also heals our bodies by removing stressors and recharges our batteries. This suspended space is like an intermission where we put our brain activity on hold and take time out. Why oh why wouldn’t we?  Joe Vitale Ebook Clearing Negativity (baggage)


Quite honestly, I have never been a fan of hypnosis. Since I decided to get out of my comfort zone and explore life’sALTERED STATE OF MIND DEFINITION opportunities, I decided to check out modern hypnosis downloads that we can listen to in the comfort of our homes. Today, there is no need to go book an appointment with a hypnotist and pay for the session. By allowing myself to check out the modern downloads, experiencing the effects, I am now an avid fan.

Hypnosis downloads quickly take us into our deeply relaxed state without us trying to make it happen, or not being able to stay focused on our breathing, getting restless, thrashing about in our minds and giving up. All we have to do is stay focused and listen to positive suggestion and ideas and we will drift off into our own world. Our sub-conscious can then communicate with us about all manner of things.

The downloads I have listened to are very repetitive, keep saying the same thing over and over and truly it gets boring. So boring in fact, I naturally drift off to my daydreaming place. The place where it all happens.


It works for me. The only way to find out if it will work for us is to try it. There are downloads for everything imaginable from weight loss, health issues, unhealthy mindsets, addictions, relationships, goals, wealth, social confidence etc. The one I use is for creating happiness and, as I keep saying, my life has become meaningful (never stagnating and boring like it used to be), I now have goals and my fulfillment levels have sky-rocketed.

When I say try it for ourselves I mean give it a “fair go” (as they say in Australia), meaning try it for a month or so. Find 10 minutes every day to deeply relax and reap the benefits. Invest in ourselves, our goal, our health, whatever is most important for us for less than $20. These days some personal development programs are somewhat expensive (albeit value for money) whereas the hypnosis downloads are within every one’s reach. How badly do we want to lose those migraines, addictions, fears, doubts etc. I say “give it a go for a month and then make a decision.”


Let me share a true story about a close relation of mine. Unfortunately, he was involved in a traffic accident which resultedALTERED STATE OF MIND DEFINITION in the death of two of his friends (who were passengers in his vehicle) and lost one of his legs and is now an amputee. His journey to finally mastering a prosthesis took two years of extreme pain, recurring infection, frustration and his dedicated attitude prevailed. It was heartbreaking to witness. The Invictus Games (for amputees) was held while he was recovering and he took heart in their motto: I AM, MASTER OF MY FATE, CAPTAIN OF MY SOUL.

This event hit me like a lightening bolt, I adore him and witnessing his motivation broke me out of my stagnation. I quickly realised I was wasting my fully functional mobile life, how unhappy and bored I was with my existence. This gave me the strength to be brave and courageous and embrace my life, find my mojo, get off the couch, break out of my toxic comfort zone and go LIVE MY LIFE with the zesty ballsy determination and dedication he had shown me.

Let me ask, what are we going to do with our lives? We can make a difference. It’s not too late to start.


It’s been lovely chatting and sharing with you all. I invite you to share your experiences, knowledge and inspirations so we can contribute to each other’s lives and grow together. I so look forward to your expressions as they help me too.

Cheers now, Jill



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