GOAL NO: 6 EXAMPLES OF OVERCOMING OBSTACLES

Our belly is fired up due to our passions/talents, and along comes the obstacles. This is, unfortunately, perfectly normal and our plan goes “poof” out the window.  .

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GUTS, GRUNT, DETERMINATION AND FOCUS

Keep our fires stoked by facing these challenges “head on”. For example, an opportunity came my way that was in conflict with my passion. I was selected for an intensive training program (real hand holding and person to person), that could EXAMPLES OVERCOMING OBSTACLESmaybe bring dollars into my life more rapidly. I was emotionally tempted with the shiny thing, however it meant changing my focus away from my passion, leaving 4 months of work behind and starting again! Bitter pill I was not about to swallow. I faced the dilemma and it took me about a week to discover a way I could have my cake and eat it too!

Instead of changing direction, moving away from my passion, I found a way to weave the program criteria into my passion. Much to my delight, this move has been accepted and I’M IN! Woo Hoo!

I guess what I learned from this, is obstacles can be overcome if we look at them wisely and not allow our emotions to make the decision. I practiced what I preach by staying on track following my passion, thought outside the box and VOILA!

OTHER COMMON OBSTACLES

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TOP 10 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS NOW WE ARE FIRED UP

WORK OUR BUTTS OFF

Goal No: 5 Action Our Talent. Fired up and ready to nail it? In previous articles we’ve found our passion which led to discovering our talent. Now it’s time to tickle our soul and act on our preordained talent.

Fire gives us the energy to dedicate our efforts to our passions. With determination, consistent and persistent hard work we can bring it home!

PASSION, FIRE AND ENTHUSIASM

Working with our talents is not remotely like the daily grind it used to be when working for a boss. When working for a boss we are not passionately motivated or deeply interested in the company’s future. Sure we give our best but our hearts arePASSION, FIRE AND TALENT not truly in it.

Our passionate talents inspire automatic enthusiasm and motivation. We can’t wait to get into again. Our efforts have grunt and we are turbo charged.

We are alive and up to any challenge that comes our way. With persistent exploration we overcome any challenge and nail it!

POISON

Ingvar Kamprad, billionaire extraordinaire and founder of IKEA quoted “The most dangerous poison is the feeling of achievement. The antidote is to every evening think what can be done better tomorrow”.

I found this surprising. When we achieve we celebrate, reward ourselves and feel good. I believe what Ingvar is saying is we get distracted from the main game celebrating a small but significant goal along the way. I know I indulge myself for too long, wasting precious time with jubilation.

Focusing on “what can be done better tomorrow” moves us closer to our end game. It is said that Ingvar continually had his butt up and head down consistently pursuing ways to help his customers more and the flatpack was born.

The lesson here is if we keep focused on what we are doing, do more of it every single day, find what can be done better to help people, we will be so busy and by the time we look up “poof” the money has followed us. Continue reading “TOP 10 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS NOW WE ARE FIRED UP”

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TOP 10 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS FIRE YOUR BELLY MEANING

Goal No: 4 FIRE YOUR BELLY MEANINGLet’s look at what is, and how to fire your belly. Follow your passion, discover your talent and light your fire! It is that simple. We all have a hidden talent and the way to discover it is by embracing our passion.

Let’s recap on Goals 1-3: What we have explored and discovered so far.

It’s okay to challenge social norms and become an independent free thinker, how our comfort zones deceive and limit us from exploring, trying new things and how our cosy couches keep us from action.

DISCOVER YOUR PASSION WHICH LIGHTS YOUR FIRE!

How do we do that you might ask? Our passions are things we love to do like playing a sport, writing, the arts, helping others, coaching, welding, gardening, cooking whatever ignites us. Things we can’t get enough of. We want to know more, explore, learn about it. When we are engaged in our passion time becomes irrelevant. We are so absorbed in doing what we love hours drift by and we don’t even notice.

This state of being, the zone, automatically lights our fire! It is the fire that keeps us absorbed, curious and feeling alive, excited, rewarded at each little discovery, suddenly we try new methods, add something we never thought of before etc. We are deeply engrossed.

THE FIRE EXPANDS OUR THINKING

Once we explore and find our passion/s we head off to do more of them. During in this process we will discover THE ONE that we love the most, hunger for, thirst for and our talent is out from hiding. All we have to do then is follow it.

Surprisingly, when we allow ourselves to go “all in” on the journey of following our new-found talent we shift our mind to a free space, being in the zone. Nothing else enters our mind and it not uncommon for me to forget to eat!

In the zone, the fire in our belly will contribute to whatever we are absorbed in by way of auto suggestions. Things like “would it be better this way, try this, add this, no that’s not going to work, here’s something to try”. You get my drift. I experience this all the time now and it is a brilliant, relaxed, cool and calm place to be. Continue reading “TOP 10 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS FIRE YOUR BELLY MEANING”

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TOP 10 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS NOS: 2&3

Goal No 2 & 3: Escape rat race and take action. Let’s look at how we are stuck in the rat race and ways to get out. Again, our brain washed/conditioned sub conscious teaches us to live this way and many of us simply accept it. It is not your fault.

PRELUDE

I have covered, in depth, how our sub conscious pretty well controls our lives in my previous post titled Altered States of Consciousness Examples. If you haven’t already read this article, I suggest you do, and it will help you understand and apply what follows. For those who are already aware of our conditioned sub conscious let’s explore and take action shall we?

THE RAT RACE

Let’s picture in our minds the image of a giant wheel in a cage where millions of rats run forward, the wheel constantly turns in a never ending circle and they get nowhere. This is the bulk of humanity going around in a circle. Do we see ourselves there?

ESCAPE RAT RACEWhere are we when we participate in the ludicrous behaviour? In our comfort zone. So cosy doing what everyone else is doing, following the only plan in our sub conscious that has been placed there from the limited thinking of our parents, peers and teachers.

We have inadvertently absorbed these habits and it is not our fault. How do we get out of this never ending circle? Answer: challenge our comfort zones.

GOAL NO: 2 TRASH OUR COMFORT ZONES

Our comfort zones are full of unhealthy lies, deceptions and automatic decisions. One poignant one that comes to my mind is, our parents voted labor, liberal etc resulting in us voting the same. We don’t question whether we actually agree with the party lines, we simply do what our parents did and it is so warm and cosy. How’s this one: Mum and Dad follow the footy and support ………. and without questioning, who do we support? Remember there are a few independent free thinkers out that choose for themselves.

Our automatic behaviours are so ingrained almost across the board of life. We might ask ourselves what can I do to habitually make my own choices. Retrain our sub conscious. How do we do that? In this modern world there are self-help programs everywhere to help us create our own plan, our own unique blueprint and discover what we want to choose in life, instead of accepting what is installed in our comfort zones.

Remember our brains are sophisticated computers and we can install whatever program we choose.

GOAL NO: 3 GET OFF THE COUCH AND TAKE ACTION

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TOP 10 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS NO: 1

Goal No: 1 Examples of Social Norms. We are off to explore our social norms and discover how damaging they are and how they bring about limited thinking. Surprised? So was I!  Let’s personally develop ourselves to make our goals easier.

ACCEPTANCE OF THE NORM

Believe it or not the social norm is a set of rules that dictates to us and most of us unconsciously choose to live by. Have you ever questioned the norm? Fortunately, the norm dictates some healthy ideas and unfortunately, some limiting unhealthy ideas about how we should run our lives. Most of us accept the social norms as gospel and rarely do they get challenged.

LET’S CHALLENGE THE SOCIAL NORMS SHALL WE?

Within the social norms I have discovered how it limits our beliefs and damages our way of thinking. Let’s look at a fewSOCIAL NORMS examples of how the social norm has us take unhealthy action and make unwise decisions.

The norm dictates what is fashionable, i.e. what we will wear, what we will drink, what and how we should eat, what restaurants are the best in town, what is newsworthy (most of it being negative), what pills we will take, where our children will go to school etc. etc.

One classic norm rule most of us follow is buying a home. This home “must have” a mortgage, 4 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, the latest big screen TV, at least 2 garages, swimming pool, shed, and be equipped with all the latest fashion kitchens, tiles, windows, security system, and all the modern bells and whistles. You get my drift. This is commonly referred to as INSTANT GRATIFICATION and is explained in a recent post of mine which also addresses GOVERNMENT HANDOUTS.

Then the next rule is we must get a job and work for a considerable number of years of our lives to pay off the “acceptable” debt. Most of the time this means our wives must also work and the children then go to day care and this is OK, this is normal. Is it I ask? I don’t believe so.SMALL AND AFFORDABLE

We all have the capability to choose to buy, with a small mortgage, a small place without all the bells and whistles, live with the basic necessities (minimum of furniture, washing machine, fridge, kettle, a small TV) and make it our business to save for floor coverings, blinds and the bells and whistles with cash from our savings. End result, manageable mortgage that can be dispensed with more rapidly. Perhaps with a manageable mortgage, one of the parents can be a “stay at home” and witness the children growing up. Is this not common sense?

The norm teaches the populace it is just fine to be in debt up to our eyeballs and ALSO, FOR THE GOVERNMENT to be in deficit and continue to spend. Think about it.

The norm, in fact brain washes us and conditions us to “follow like sheep”. We don’t action our independent free thinking capabilities to arrive at our own informed decisions.

IN DEFENCE OF THE SOCIAL NORM

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLAN EXAMPLE

No: 1 Personal Development Plan with an explanation of how to understand the mental processes required to change your life. Learn how to apply it and your path will be easier and probably quicker. Let’s go and explore shall we?

My previous article, called Altered States Of Consciousness Examples, is my first take on explaining the mental processes required to make change. I will give my updated take in this article to help further clarify this process. Sit back with a cup of coffee, relax, bring an open mind however do put your thinking cap on.

INDEX

  1. Step 1: UNDERSTAND HOW OUR BRAIN WORKS
  2. Step 2: CREATING OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS
  3. Step 3: APPLY OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS
  4. Step 4: BE PERSISTENT, CONSISTENT, DEDICATED AND DETERMINED

STEP ONE: UNDERSTAND HOW OUR BRAIN WORKS

The two brain compartments that we are dealing with is the sub conscious mindset and the conscious mindset.

OUR SUBCONSCIOUS MINDSET

Our sub conscious takes care of functions like beating our hearts, our breathing and thousands more. These are stored in our sub conscious and happen for us on AUTO PILOT.

Added to our sub conscious is all the childhood learning that we absorbed from our peers, parent, teachers, what is HOW OUR BRAIN WORKSnormal, right and wrong, social rules etc consequently we are conditioned, perhaps brainwashed to behave in certain ways and this all runs on AUTO PILOT. Another way of describing this stored information is our comfort zones.

Due to our conditioning/brain washing our inner child is wounded. It wants to be recognised, nurtured and listened to. When this doesn’t happen it gets offended by adult rules and takes refuge in addiction, obesity, being false and wearing masks, being a rebel, a hoarder, a bully, a super achiever, intimacy problems, commitment problems, obsessiveness, fear of authority figures, liars, criminals and the list is endless.

In adulthood, the ripples or echoes of those experiences, both positive and negative, can have a tremendous influence on us. It could be a career choice that falls into the family dynamic (follow in Dad’s footsteps) or having a problem with drink, drugs, anger or adopting a great sense of humour, help others, cook the best scones etc. You get my drift. These behaviours are learned and run on AUTO PILOT.

We need to look at ourselves honestly and acknowledge damaging issues that may have festered since childhood, accept them without blame and recognise our child is in desperate need of healing.

OUR CONSCIOUS MINDSET

Our conscious mindset as babies are full of wonder, playfulness and love learning, exploring and everything is an adventure. This is all displayed in our baby smiles when we are happy, learning to crawl and then walk, touching everything, crying when we are not happy, learning to speak etc. At this point in our lives we are honest and our integrity is on an all time high.

In adulthood, after absorbing all the conditioning our tainted conscious mindset takes care of all our daily decisions like all the boring grind stuff (cook a meal, go to work, take a shower etc.) as well as positive and rewarding decisions like learning, playing a sport, social dinners etc. and guides us with incorrect/correct actions stored in our sub conscious. THIS IS IMPORTANT: OUR SUB CONSCIOUS CAN ONLY GUIDE US WITH WHAT IS STORED, BE IT GOOD OR BAD.

OUR CONSCIOUS DECISION MAKING MINDSET AT WORK

By simply becoming aware of our unhealthy behaviours, we can take conscious action to repair the damage, nurture our child and change our behaviours and therefore our levels of happiness.

In fact, what we are doing is creating OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS in our sub conscious mindset.

STEP TWO: CREATING OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS

This is where we reconnect with our baby blueprint. The one that is full of wonder, playfulness, honesty, integrity, learning,NEVER GIVE UP not giving up (e.g. learning to walk, fall down, get up, try again, no such thing as failure). The best way to live our lives is mirrored in the baby blueprint. I believe this map is, in fact, referred to as our best self, our higher conscious and higher self. What do you think?

The unhealthy behaviours we learned were constantly re-enforced by repetition. Consequently, our own unique positive instructions need to be repetitive to become embedded in our sub conscious.

My unique instructions reflect my dream life in all it’s aspects. Whatever I dream up, am passionate about and desire is listed in my unique instructions. What will we put in our unique instructions? Our blueprints don’t want to sit on the couch, smoke, drink too much, be unfit, angry, tell untruths etc. Why? Because they hurt us, are unhealthy, cause remorse etc. We can change anything by applying our own unique instructions repeatedly.

Now I’m all for speeding up my unique plan, and since repetition is important, I employ Hypnosis downloads which are packed with repetition. I get the added bonus of deep relaxation for at least 10 minutes a day. I was not a fan of hypnosis until I decided to try it and then make an informed decision. I am so glad I was adventurous enough to try it and now I’m a fan. Why? Because it undoubtedly works, speeds up the process a bit like cheating really. In this case my unique plan says it’s okay to make this process easier, it’s healthy!!!

I always worked for someone else and consequently I was constrained and had to follow someone’s rules. I have changed this and am now working for myself, to my own rules and have my own online business. All the doubts, fears etc stored in my sub conscious are being replaced with I can, I am, learn the new, I am not giving up and the wonder of owning my own business. I am following my own unique plan. Do you see how this works?

STEP THREE: APPLY OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLANApply our own unique instructions. Our inner child will embrace anything that mirrors the best blueprint. Once on the right path our child contributes because they want to play, learn, laugh, feel joyful for our successes and help us along the way. I find it extraordinary how adventuresome, curious, courageous, brave and enthusiastic my child is.

In this day and age I believe there are many people who have discovered this “unique plan to change” and offer many self help programs to reconnect with our child’s blueprint. Most of them include the word “manifest”. I personally dislike the word manifest, because for me, it conjures up “what a load of crap”. However, I got out of my comfort zone and I decided I was curious enough to at least check a few of them out so I could make an honest informed decision.

What I discovered was they actually address these mental processes in exactly the same way as I have uncovered them. They are authentic and offer easier ways to apply our unique instructions and bring desired results more rapidly. The only thing I had to come to terms with was the word manifest. I have successfully replaced it with create. The techniques are somewhat unusual, and a bit of a stretch for those of us stuck in our comfort zones and those who won’t break out of the so called “norm”. There are a lot of people out there, using these techniques and parading their best lives and I want to be one of them, whatever it takes. How about you?

Once again, I am grateful I had the courage, the curiosity and was brave enough to be an independent free thinking person and form my own opinion. So what if the techniques are unusual and unfamiliar, if they work for me I happily embrace them. Will we access material and programs that can facilitate positive change in our lives? This is entirely your decision.

Why make our way with the laborious and costly exercise of consulting a Psych when change is at our fingertips. Why cheat ourselves by accepting the norm and bedding down in our comfort zones. I found it is exhilarating being an independent free thinker.

STEP 4: BE PERSISTENT, CONSISTENT, DEDICATED AND DETERMINEDDETERMINED DEDICATION

I don’t need to explain this step. We all know what we have to do! Stay focused and bring our lives to the best lives we could ever dream of. By applying all I have learned, staying focused and pursuing my dream life, like a bull dog, I live each day with excitement, enthusiasm, aliveness, gratefulness, facing challenges head on and overcoming them. The result, I am evolving into a liberated woman, an independent free thinker and LOVING IT! Where have I been all my life, buried under the brainwashing, the “norm” and bedded down in my comfort zone.

IN CONCLUSION

Think on this: Curiosity drove inventors, renown artists, musicians, digital and medical masters etc to be independent free thinker. They thought outside the box, outside the “norm” and followed their passion and curiosities. Would you agree? We have genius brilliant minds (it’s in the baby blueprint), all we need to do is to free our minds from convention and conditioning and become curiosity gurus.

I hope my article has been compelling and some us have the courage to grab it with both hands and give it a try.

It has been my pleasure to share my discoveries with you. My journey brings me closer and closer to the happiness that was eluding me. I can smell it, sense it and I have got my fingertips on it now. There’s no stopping me! Join me. I invite you all to join the conversation, share your gems of wisdom and experience and help us grow together. Thank you.

Cheers now, Jill

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