The alter ego life game and the small voice. We talked a bit about the wee small voice in my previous post Create Your Life Games and I was inspired to find out more and how to connect with it. Let’s continue on my journey.
This exploration has taken me into the Spiritual Arena. My first reaction was “Oh no where is this leading me?”. I was right in my comfort zone with previous posts but this one I was finding a bit scary and challenging. Hang with me guys, you will like what I found and it is an interesting read! I am back in my comfort zone and you will be too.
To habitually connect with our wee voice, our egos have to surrender in order for us to obey this voice and be blessed with life’s riches. Eeeeek! SURRENDER AND OBEY are strong words that I positively don’t resonate with and immediately brought up religious connotations which quite freaked me out. Don’t get me wrong, I am a Christian and happily live my life with Christian values however I do not go to Church and I am not in the habit of Bible Study etc.
I was committed to researching this arena to find my way. I typed in Google search, surrender and obey, and up came the heavy “Bible preaching” stuff. Whoa, I said to myself. Nevertheless I read.
I am a mischievous, impish soul that loves a bubble or two and a few cigarettes each day and I enjoy these traits in my personality and no way was I about to give them up. Being a “goodie two shoes” is not in my vocabulary let alone in my heart.
Something told me to go check out the Buddha style teaching and the first site I found was this amazing site called Tiny Buddha. Here I listened to an interview with Dr Amy Johnson (who was a control freak, is not anymore) and gave wonderful examples of how to understand our egos and surrender them to our wee small voice! I hit the jackpot.
This is the time to introduce to Dr Amy Johnson PHD. And I quote “Dr Amy is a psychologist, coach, author and speaker who shares a groundbreaking new approach that helps people find true, lasting freedom from unwanted habits via insight rather than willpower. Johnson has been a regularly featured expert on The Steve Harvey Show and Oprah.com, as well as in The Wall Street Journal and Self magazine. See more at www.DramyJohnson.com”.
SURRENDER EGO EMBRACE SMALL VOICE
Our egos are used to being in control and they are linked to survival, basic survival at that. No joy here, all grind, grind, grind, fight, fight, fight, work, work, work to keep control of our pitiful daily lives. (You know what I mean, pay the bills, eat, shelter, exercise for health, and the little joy that we accomplish is from our dedication (more work) to high achievement for ourselves or our kids, hitting the top, kicking the winning goal etc. and we have a display cabinet full of our trophies! These moments are celebratory, deserved and even joyous. How long does this exaltation last? In my opinion, not very long and it’s back to the grind. This is the life our egos will bring us. Having said that, I believe there is a place for our ego to help us through the mundane tasks in our day like “I am going to do the washing today, or I am going food shopping before picking up little Johnny”. However, we need to pamper ourselves and our souls with quiet time every day to connect with moment by moment to discover possibilities and opportunities .
Our egos are loud, relentlessly beating their drums, drowning out all else, demanding obedience, dominant, demanding to be heard and are the loudest voice in our minds. Our egos try to control everything and convince us to be afraid of what might happen if we don’t obey them. We are rooted in fear if we don’t do as they dictate. Ego control is attached to what it believes is best for us and in obeying our egos we are not open to all the wonderful opportunities and possibilities that could be there for us. Our egos make us blind, they are so attached to habitual outcomes. We need to become HIGHLY AWARE OF WHEN WE ARE IN ‘EGO CONTROL MODE’.
THE ART OF SURRENDER OF THE EGO
Pretty well it is as simple as stopping fighting, hanging on for dear life to our ego. Our egos fill our brains with a frenzied, noisy, chaotic, panicky, anxious, under the thumb etc. energy and consequently there is no room for our small voice. Surely it is easy to recognise this noisy EGO CONTROL MODE therefore we can teach ourselves to let it go. I mean truly, I don’t need all this noise and demands going on in my head when I know it will take me to the same habitual outcomes.
When we surrender all that chaos, all that is left is a peaceful, quietened, and relaxed state of mind and you guessed it, what shines through is our small voice. When in this state of mind think like this: “I don’t know what I’m going to do today and let it happen moment by moment”. Let things happen not make things happen. This voice is open to all possibilities and opportunities and will pop them up for us to choose and follow. We do need to take action on our chosen path and if we continue to keep our egos out of the picture somehow we are led by the hand to the next step and the next step. I know this to be a fact because it happens to me a lot. I was led to looking up Tiny Buddha website to get my answers.
OUR GENTLE QUIET PATH
In the process of researching and learning I decided to replace: SURRENDER, OBEY, BE BLESSED with LET GO, FOLLOW, BE BLESSED.
May I take the liberty to remind you the easiest and quickest way to hear your small voice is by communing with nature in some way shape of form. This is how I do it. I sit on a rock, climb and sit in a tree, use my senses, smell, touch, hear etc. If for some reason it is not possible to go for a stroll, simply pick up a flower, a rock, a leaf, your cat and look with focus, be totally absorbed with an attitude of wonderment at the perfection you see and believe me you will connect with your small voice. Talk out loud or within to your voice, e.g. “what do I need to do next? I don’t know what to do? Guide me, help me” be still and quiet and you will get your answers. Maybe not there and then but when you are quietly washing the dishes, or feeling the water on your body when taking a shower. At a time when you are still and silent. There is little point in sitting on a rock and obsessing in your mind about how you are going to teach little Johnny to pick up his toys or make his bed. This behaviour is communing with your ego.
I believe once we are strongly connected to our wee small voice we will be shown our destiny, our Life’s Purpose. How about that!!! I now know I am destined to write these blogs and share what I have learned. As Dr Wayne Dyer said: “Don’t die with your music still in you”.
I have thoroughly enjoyed researching, exploring, growing and sharing my journey with you. Please join the conversation and contribute as we learn together. Once more I am not an expert and my writings are my opinion and if they help you in any way, I am grateful. I am so happy I was shown Dr Amy Johnson as I am now comfortable with Surrender, Obey Be Blessed even though I like the gentle Let go, Follow Be Blessed! Cheers now, Jill