No: 1 Personal Development Plan with an explanation of how to understand the mental processes required to change your life. Learn how to apply it and your path will be easier and probably quicker. Let’s go and explore shall we?
My previous article, called Altered States Of Consciousness Examples, is my first take on explaining the mental processes required to make change. I will give my updated take in this article to help further clarify this process. Sit back with a cup of coffee, relax, bring an open mind however do put your thinking cap on.
- Step 1: UNDERSTAND HOW OUR BRAIN WORKS
- Step 2: CREATING OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS
- Step 3: APPLY OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS
- Step 4: BE PERSISTENT, CONSISTENT, DEDICATED AND DETERMINED
STEP ONE: UNDERSTAND HOW OUR BRAIN WORKS
The two brain compartments that we are dealing with is the sub conscious mindset and the conscious mindset.
OUR SUBCONSCIOUS MINDSET
Our sub conscious takes care of functions like beating our hearts, our breathing and thousands more. These are stored in our sub conscious and happen for us on AUTO PILOT.
Added to our sub conscious is all the childhood learning that we absorbed from our peers, parent, teachers, what is normal, right and wrong, social rules etc consequently we are conditioned, perhaps brainwashed to behave in certain ways and this all runs on AUTO PILOT. Another way of describing this stored information is our comfort zones.
Due to our conditioning/brain washing our inner child is wounded. It wants to be recognised, nurtured and listened to. When this doesn’t happen it gets offended by adult rules and takes refuge in addiction, obesity, being false and wearing masks, being a rebel, a hoarder, a bully, a super achiever, intimacy problems, commitment problems, obsessiveness, fear of authority figures, liars, criminals and the list is endless.
In adulthood, the ripples or echoes of those experiences, both positive and negative, can have a tremendous influence on us. It could be a career choice that falls into the family dynamic (follow in Dad’s footsteps) or having a problem with drink, drugs, anger or adopting a great sense of humour, help others, cook the best scones etc. You get my drift. These behaviours are learned and run on AUTO PILOT.
We need to look at ourselves honestly and acknowledge damaging issues that may have festered since childhood, accept them without blame and recognise our child is in desperate need of healing.
OUR CONSCIOUS MINDSET
Our conscious mindset as babies are full of wonder, playfulness and love learning, exploring and everything is an adventure. This is all displayed in our baby smiles when we are happy, learning to crawl and then walk, touching everything, crying when we are not happy, learning to speak etc. At this point in our lives we are honest and our integrity is on an all time high.
In adulthood, after absorbing all the conditioning our tainted conscious mindset takes care of all our daily decisions like all the boring grind stuff (cook a meal, go to work, take a shower etc.) as well as positive and rewarding decisions like learning, playing a sport, social dinners etc. and guides us with incorrect/correct actions stored in our sub conscious. THIS IS IMPORTANT: OUR SUB CONSCIOUS CAN ONLY GUIDE US WITH WHAT IS STORED, BE IT GOOD OR BAD.
OUR CONSCIOUS DECISION MAKING MINDSET AT WORK
By simply becoming aware of our unhealthy behaviours, we can take conscious action to repair the damage, nurture our child and change our behaviours and therefore our levels of happiness.
In fact, what we are doing is creating OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS in our sub conscious mindset.
STEP TWO: CREATING OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS
This is where we reconnect with our baby blueprint. The one that is full of wonder, playfulness, honesty, integrity, learning, not giving up (e.g. learning to walk, fall down, get up, try again, no such thing as failure). The best way to live our lives is mirrored in the baby blueprint. I believe this map is, in fact, referred to as our best self, our higher conscious and higher self. What do you think?
The unhealthy behaviours we learned were constantly re-enforced by repetition. Consequently, our own unique positive instructions need to be repetitive to become embedded in our sub conscious.
My unique instructions reflect my dream life in all it’s aspects. Whatever I dream up, am passionate about and desire is listed in my unique instructions. What will we put in our unique instructions? Our blueprints don’t want to sit on the couch, smoke, drink too much, be unfit, angry, tell untruths etc. Why? Because they hurt us, are unhealthy, cause remorse etc. We can change anything by applying our own unique instructions repeatedly.
Now I’m all for speeding up my unique plan, and since repetition is important, I employ Hypnosis downloads which are packed with repetition. I get the added bonus of deep relaxation for at least 10 minutes a day. I was not a fan of hypnosis until I decided to try it and then make an informed decision. I am so glad I was adventurous enough to try it and now I’m a fan. Why? Because it undoubtedly works, speeds up the process a bit like cheating really. In this case my unique plan says it’s okay to make this process easier, it’s healthy!!!
I always worked for someone else and consequently I was constrained and had to follow someone’s rules. I have changed this and am now working for myself, to my own rules and have my own online business. All the doubts, fears etc stored in my sub conscious are being replaced with I can, I am, learn the new, I am not giving up and the wonder of owning my own business. I am following my own unique plan. Do you see how this works?
STEP THREE: APPLY OUR OWN UNIQUE INSTRUCTIONS
Apply our own unique instructions. Our inner child will embrace anything that mirrors the best blueprint. Once on the right path our child contributes because they want to play, learn, laugh, feel joyful for our successes and help us along the way. I find it extraordinary how adventuresome, curious, courageous, brave and enthusiastic my child is.
In this day and age I believe there are many people who have discovered this “unique plan to change” and offer many self help programs to reconnect with our child’s blueprint. Most of them include the word “manifest”. I personally dislike the word manifest, because for me, it conjures up “what a load of crap”. However, I got out of my comfort zone and I decided I was curious enough to at least check a few of them out so I could make an honest informed decision.
What I discovered was they actually address these mental processes in exactly the same way as I have uncovered them. They are authentic and offer easier ways to apply our unique instructions and bring desired results more rapidly. The only thing I had to come to terms with was the word manifest. I have successfully replaced it with create. The techniques are somewhat unusual, and a bit of a stretch for those of us stuck in our comfort zones and those who won’t break out of the so called “norm”. There are a lot of people out there, using these techniques and parading their best lives and I want to be one of them, whatever it takes. How about you?
Once again, I am grateful I had the courage, the curiosity and was brave enough to be an independent free thinking person and form my own opinion. So what if the techniques are unusual and unfamiliar, if they work for me I happily embrace them. Will we access material and programs that can facilitate positive change in our lives? This is entirely your decision.
Why make our way with the laborious and costly exercise of consulting a Psych when change is at our fingertips. Why cheat ourselves by accepting the norm and bedding down in our comfort zones. I found it is exhilarating being an independent free thinker.
STEP 4: BE PERSISTENT, CONSISTENT, DEDICATED AND DETERMINED
I don’t need to explain this step. We all know what we have to do! Stay focused and bring our lives to the best lives we could ever dream of. By applying all I have learned, staying focused and pursuing my dream life, like a bull dog, I live each day with excitement, enthusiasm, aliveness, gratefulness, facing challenges head on and overcoming them. The result, I am evolving into a liberated woman, an independent free thinker and LOVING IT! Where have I been all my life, buried under the brainwashing, the “norm” and bedded down in my comfort zone.
Think on this: Curiosity drove inventors, renown artists, musicians, digital and medical masters etc to be independent free thinker. They thought outside the box, outside the “norm” and followed their passion and curiosities. Would you agree? We have genius brilliant minds (it’s in the baby blueprint), all we need to do is to free our minds from convention and conditioning and become curiosity gurus.
I hope my article has been compelling and some us have the courage to grab it with both hands and give it a try.
It has been my pleasure to share my discoveries with you. My journey brings me closer and closer to the happiness that was eluding me. I can smell it, sense it and I have got my fingertips on it now. There’s no stopping me! Join me. I invite you all to join the conversation, share your gems of wisdom and experience and help us grow together. Thank you.
Cheers now, Jill