Goal No: 1 Examples of Social Norms. We are off to explore our social norms and discover how damaging they are and how they bring about limited thinking. Surprised? So was I! Let’s personally develop ourselves to make our goals easier.
ACCEPTANCE OF THE NORM
Believe it or not the social norm is a set of rules that dictates to us and most of us unconsciously choose to live by. Have you ever questioned the norm? Fortunately, the norm dictates some healthy ideas and unfortunately, some limiting unhealthy ideas about how we should run our lives. Most of us accept the social norms as gospel and rarely do they get challenged.
LET’S CHALLENGE THE SOCIAL NORMS SHALL WE?
Within the social norms I have discovered how it limits our beliefs and damages our way of thinking. Let’s look at a few examples of how the social norm has us take unhealthy action and make unwise decisions.
The norm dictates what is fashionable, i.e. what we will wear, what we will drink, what and how we should eat, what restaurants are the best in town, what is newsworthy (most of it being negative), what pills we will take, where our children will go to school etc. etc.
One classic norm rule most of us follow is buying a home. This home “must have” a mortgage, 4 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, the latest big screen TV, at least 2 garages, swimming pool, shed, and be equipped with all the latest fashion kitchens, tiles, windows, security system, and all the modern bells and whistles. You get my drift. This is commonly referred to as INSTANT GRATIFICATION and is explained in a recent post of mine which also addresses GOVERNMENT HANDOUTS.
Then the next rule is we must get a job and work for a considerable number of years of our lives to pay off the “acceptable” debt. Most of the time this means our wives must also work and the children then go to day care and this is OK, this is normal. Is it I ask? I don’t believe so.
We all have the capability to choose to buy, with a small mortgage, a small place without all the bells and whistles, live with the basic necessities (minimum of furniture, washing machine, fridge, kettle, a small TV) and make it our business to save for floor coverings, blinds and the bells and whistles with cash from our savings. End result, manageable mortgage that can be dispensed with more rapidly. Perhaps with a manageable mortgage, one of the parents can be a “stay at home” and witness the children growing up. Is this not common sense?
The norm teaches the populace it is just fine to be in debt up to our eyeballs and ALSO, FOR THE GOVERNMENT to be in deficit and continue to spend. Think about it.
The norm, in fact brain washes us and conditions us to “follow like sheep”. We don’t action our independent free thinking capabilities to arrive at our own informed decisions.
IN DEFENCE OF THE SOCIAL NORM
The saving grace for the norm comes in many forms. It teaches us, what is right from wrong. It is great to help people, protect and love our children, invent, discover medical breakthroughs etc and not okay to be murderers, violent folk, rapists, cheats etc.
CREATING NEW NORMS
Independent free thinking people are the brilliant genius type folk who invent, discover, explore and challenge “what is” therefore creating a new norm. A classic change in the norm is the internet. The masses benefit and accept the new norm, even the misguided ones. Things that come to mind that I find dicey are freedom of speech, no gender, climate change, political correctness. What are your thoughts?
When did we forget to think for ourselves? How can we accept our “sheep like behaviour?”. When did we stop being ourselves and become robots? This saddens me.
LET’S PERSONALLY DEVELOP OUR THOUGHTS
Let’s opt out of the limiting social norms. We all have the capability to become independent free thinkers and liberated adults. By fine tuning our thoughts we can let go of all limiting beliefs and know that “the sky’s the limit”. We need to personally develop our thoughts and discover our explorers, inventors, be brave courageous people who design ourselves and our lives. Take the lid off and have a look at what’s there.
We all need a helping hand and that includes me. Today, there are many people who are liberated adults and are doing their best to give us a helping hand. Their self-help programs teach us to think outside of the norm and reclaim our thinking capabilities. Most of the time their programs are unfamiliar (outside the norm) and even a bit challenging to accept.
Wearing my curious explorer attitude I took the plunge, despite my reluctance, consequently learning and experiencing a new way to tackle life and it’s challenges. I commend these people for being brave enough to share some of these outlandish ideas. I wonder why they did it? They are proof that their ideas are sound. Are you prepared to take the plunge and break out of the norm? If you decide YES, read my recent blog PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLAN including the self-help programs for more information.
It has been lovely chatting with you once more. Maybe my provocative thoughts stirred a little curiosity. My job is to help with claiming our independent free thinkers. Agree/disagree with me, please leave your comments and experience so we can grow together. To leave a comment you may need to go to the top of the white page, RHS and click on this post in Recents Posts. Sorry for the inconvenience, technology gremlins!!
Cheers now, Jill